Each individual’s relationship with self- harm is complex and will differ. There can be many reasons behind self -harm such as childhood abuse, sexual assault, bullying, stress, low self -esteem, family breakdown, dysfunctional relationships, mental ill health and financial worries.
Self harm is primarily a coping strategy and can provide a release from emotional distress and enable an individual to regain feelings of control. Self harm can be a form of self punishment for feelings of guilt. It can also be a way to physically express feelings and emotions when individuals struggle to communicate with others. It is therefore important that individuals who self harm are able to express these feelings, thoughts and emotions in other ways whenever possible. It can be difficult to share the reasons behind the self harm with others and to gain the help and support that may be needed.
In the majority of cases, self harm is a very private act and individuals can go to great lengths to hide their scars and bruises and will often try to address their physical injuries themselves rather than seek medical treatment. Whilst some individuals who self harm may have suicidal feelings, those feelings are likely to originate from the experiences and traumas behind their self harm rather than being influenced by self harm itself.